I reflect today about my experience living in the USA since 2009. Every single idea you will read here comes from my personal perspective and my lenses to read the world and I don’t expect you to agree.
As any other country, living in the USA has good things and things that we don’t appreciate – again, similar to all other places. In contrast with outside opinions that the USA culture is individualistic, I see a lot of respect and consideration to what is public, what is part of the community. North Americans donate money and most interestingly, they donate a lot of time to social causes.
They organize associations and initiatives to defend causes they believe in. What is different from my homeland Brazil, for example, is that it seems that North Americans have their internal drive, so they are less dependent of the group. They come together, establish goals, objectives and plans, they make agreements and then they work and deliver what they had agreed upon. From my perspective, there is less interest and connection to work together, build together, to reflect upon the process together, what it seems to be considered a waste of time.
What strikes me the most is the necessity to prove results before experiencing the process.
This is what I call a pragmatic view of life. In my experience here in the USA, I feel people more attached to outcomes than the experience of something itself. It seems there is a social belief or way of operating that says “first, prove it” by presenting certificates, by using the language that I am expecting to hear, with clear outcomes, then I will trust you. I am not saying this is bad or wrong, but it is a way of living that brings strengths and weaknesses, threats and opportunities.
What would happen if we connect the North American power of internal drive to create results with appreciation for experiencing the process?
How would be a society that allows itself to build its future by experiencing the qualities and failures of each attempt to build this possible future?
What if the outcomes is a fantasy, a collective-deception of control?
What if the outcome would have the same as the process experience?
What if we could accept to be surprised by good outcomes or excited about a learning experience (currently perceived as failure)?
I thank every day for my openness to experience different cultures and learn so much about myself and the world we live.
